Aren’t you glad that life gives us second chances? I know that I am!
In 2010, I ended a 21 year marriage to a controlling and emotionally abusive husband. I should have left years earlier, but I was so convinced that I could not survive financially without him.
Then it occurred to me. I was the breadwinner of our family and had been supporting all five of us for several years. I could survive financially without him! I just needed the mental courage to break free.
There were several deciding factors at that point that were screaming at me to leave, but the main reason I finally broke free was because I did not want my three daughters thinking that being treated the way their father treated me (or them) was okay. It was anything, but okay. So, I ended the marriage.
Divorce was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through in my life. However, from the moment my ex moved out of the house, the dark cloud that had been hovering over our home was gone.
My daughters and I could be free to laugh, be crude, be silly… basically do whatever we wanted without having to walk on eggshells. Life was good, but it was about to get better.
I reluctantly started online dating after my divorce. It was a complete beating. If you have had the “privilege” of online dating then you know what I’m talking about. But, after weeding out several guys and going on a few dates, I met the man of my dreams.
When I say there isn’t a more perfect fit for me in a life partner, I’m not exaggerating. Ken was/is the best fit for me. We balance each other out and he pushes me to be the best me I can be. Never in my life have I felt more loved! I never realized how much of a dysfunctional marriage I had until I was in a healthy and loving relationship.
First official couple photo in 2012.
We merged our families in 2012 and I gained a bonus daughter in the process. My daughters gained a stable father figure who showered them with love as if they were his own.
While it hasn’t always been smooth sailing—because teenage daughters—our lives are great.
My beautiful family from 2012.
In case you’re concerned, no copy write laws broken here…my husband owns the studio.
Yes. I am happy there are second chances. With this new chance at a happy life, I have freedom to do what I want without repercussion. My husband supports and encourages me in anything I do wholeheartedly.
So, when I decided at the age of 49 that I wanted to move in a new direction, he was my biggest cheerleader. He is the reason I had the courage to step out of my comfort zone and start my own business. I haven’t looked back!
Being my own boss has given me freedom and confidence that I have never known. It’s not easy. It’s hard work, but the payoff is worth it.
If you would have asked me a few years ago if I would be working for myself, I would have laughed. But here I am. Rocking it!
The best part is, while I am self employed, I am a part of a larger community of boss babes who are also rocking it. I love that! We build each other up and encourage one another every single day. It’s awesome!
If you are seeking something different or would like to add some extra cash flow to your life, I would love to talk to you further about my journey and having you join our community. You can read more here, or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Live healthy, my friends, and remember that age is just a number.