Girlfriends are Essential to Life
I spent last Friday evening celebrating the bachelorette party of one of my favorite people. Saturday morning I woke up feeling grateful because I was able to share this event with someone I love so dearly.
The older I get the more I appreciate them. My girlfriends are my people.
Out of my closest and dearest friends, I have known one since I was four years old. I met others in middle school and high school. I have picked up other new girlfriends along my adult journey. Others are technically family by marriages, but I still count them as my girlfriends. And, now some of my best girlfriends are my daughters.
I fully believe that having girlfriends is essential to my well-being. I would not have survived some pretty traumatic seasons in my life without a tribe of women holding my hand and standing beside me along the way.
Some of my friends and I can go weeks, or even months, without talking to each other, but we are somehow still able to pick up right where we left off. Hopefully you have been blessed with a friend or two like this.
Girlfriends are essential to life!
Here are five reasons why I believe this to be true:
1. Loyalty and Belonging.
Husbands and family aside, we need friends who have our backs. Friends who will stand by you when the going gets tough. Having a tribe of women by your side gives you a sense of belonging. Whether you are single, divorced, married, etc., we all have a natural desire to belong. No matter where we are, I am always "home" when I am with my girlfriends.
Not only do we need friends who have our backs, we need friends that will hold us accountable and speak truth when we probably don’t want to hear it. That is a true friend! A friend who loves you so unconditionally that they will speak up and let you know when you are wrong. They love you enough to confront without being confrontational.
You know the saying: “girls just want to have fun”. There’s a lot of truth to it. Let’s face it, there are activities that only girls enjoy. My husband is a trooper and will literally do anything I ask of him, but I know that he hates shopping and isn’t a wine drinker. It would be cruel of me to ask him to take me shopping or go on a wine tour. That’s where my girlfriends come in. Enjoy your girl time! Take an all girls trip! Quality time with friends will take your stress away! I cannot emphasize this one enough! Girl time...do it!
Have you ever had the need to call someone and just rant? I mean your head is about to explode and you need to just go off for a minute without repercussion—that kind of rant?? I have a couple of friends that allow me to do this. They aren’t judgmental. They don’t offer advice unless I ask for it. They just listen. After I rant and feel better we move on. The rant may or may not make me feel better in the end, but the point is, I have someone who loves me enough to keep her mouth shut and just listen when needed.
5. Healthy Aging.
I said it earlier, but will say it again. Having a community of people is essential to our well-being, especially as we get older. I have friends in many different phases of life. As much as I love all of them, it is also essential that I have a close friend or two in the same stage of life as me. I need someone that can relate to exactly where I am—an empty nesting, hormonal, midlife woman. Being able to share my journey with friends who are wearing the same shoes is essential to my mental health. We can relate to each other, share ideas, share recommendations on surviving menopause, etc. They can relate and that is valuable!
No matter where you are in life, girlfriends are so important. Having a tribe of women standing beside you will enhance your journey. I don’t believe you can ever love too many people. I believe the opposite.
My life is better because I am loved by sooooo many people.
Live healthy, my friends, and remember that age is just a number.